What’s the Pathway “here”?
Welcome to a place providing space, understanding, a listening ear, energy and love to the women trying to conceive a baby.
Do you find these thoughts run through your mind:
“I shouldn’t need help to get pregnant.”
“It shouldn’t be this hard.”
“If I hadn’t dreamt of being a mom since I was a child, I would have given up.”
“I’m a good person. I love my husband/partner. I have faith. I work hard. I’ve tried everything. I just want a baby right now. “
“I can’t handle the stress, I want it to go away.”
“I wish my body worked right… Why can’t I get pregnant?”
“I worry my eggs are old.”
“My cycle is regular. Why can’t I get pregnant?”
“I’ve been diagnosed with ‘unexplained infertility’. It’s the most useless diagnosis - you can’t treat it.”
“I’m running out of time.”
A love letter to every woman finding herself where she never wanted - on the hardest steepest path to climb. While so many others are exactly where they want to be, walking the “easy” pathway.
If you are reading this, you have found yourself in a place that no one prepared you for. A place that challenges your body, heart and mind. A place where every part of your fertility is poked, pulled and stretched.
Starting the journey:
You started this journey like other women. The powerful decision to create a baby and be a mother. A step to manifest a family and allow new branches on a tree to grow.
You have poured your heart and imagination into every detail of how the baby experience would be, who you will be as a mom, what it will be like to have a family. Add in the family and friends, who share their mommy experiences, their excitement and the love for their babies. By the time you are ready to conceive, the idea of having a baby has been fully fleshed out in your mind and soul. It feels easy and direct like stepping through the backdoor of your home onto the pathway of a garden.
A beautiful garden with a pathway that is flat with clearly defined stepping stones. With each step, it easily leads to the next step. As you walk the pathway, there’s much to see. Happy children playing in the grass. Warm sunshine and cool shade for your family to relax in. An effortless family journey, where you can relax and take in all the small details of the garden.
Instead you are “here”:
Instead of the level pathway, you open the door to find a steep path. Unsettling hillside that appears too steep to climb. Just looking at it makes your stomach drop. There’s no railing, no rope, no one to show where to step. The vegetation is sparse, a tree with barren branches. Such a horrible place to be.
Simple steps have turned into complicated steps. What was once “going to be easy” has turned into a daunting task.
There you are. Frozen. Fear floods you. You try to close the door, but you can’t. You know there’s only one way to go - forward.
When you look around, everyone else gets the “just happens” pathway. The dreamy baby who easily comes along with no effort. Never mind the endless posts to social media with happy baby pictures. A constant reminder of your unmanifested dream.
Alone on a pathway in a garden which looks nothing like the one you imagined. It's a tiring and frustrating pathway. It can feel like there’s nowhere to take off the heavy backpack of worries, questions and feeling out of control.
You’re flooded with thoughts - how would you climb this pathway? Is there anyone to help you climb the steps? Do you need special shoes? Is there a step to guarantee a positive outcome?
Where or what to do next?
It hits you hard. You wonder “how the heck did I get to this pathway and where do I step next?”.
And so you look for answers.
You are immediately overwhelmed. Trying to figure out how to solve the problem of infertility.
You discover all sorts of new things. Maybe your habits, lifestyle need to be reshaped. Everything you feel comfortable in - life, work, relationships - could be dramatically revamped. You learn fast and furiously the new language of infertility. Your lady parts get poked and prodded. Your heart aches.
Here’s the hard part - you have lots of options. Yet options lead to other questions like:
● Which steps should you take?
● Which direction is best for you?
● Could following pathway “A” allow you to find the best solution?
● Should you follow what another woman’s recommended?
● Can Dr XYZ truly give you the best outcome?
What can this website do for me?
You feel lost, alone and unsure what to do or where to go. You are not alone.
I specialize in fertility. Since 2003, I have been helping women conceive. I can help you figure out the steps to create your pathway to conception.
In this moment - imagine there’s a pathway for you. YOUR pathway. One that you create. Each step of the pathway leads you to the next step. A pathway which acknowledges and empowers you to be the best you can be. A pathway filled with support, space and dedication to face all facets of trying to have a baby. A pathway in which each step you take has no regret. How could that change you and your pathway?
Yes, your journey will be yours alone. Not only will you learn about fertility and conceiving, you will learn about who you are and how to handle high intensity stress levels. It would be an honor for me to be on your pathway, assisting you in the best way to improve your fertility of body, mind and heart.
This website will help you find the level pathway. Yes, the steep pathway might come back. Yet, armed with good information, support and new techniques to handle what is in front of you, the pathway can be walked.
